A Beginner's Guide to Effective Email
StatusKaitlin Duck Sherwood
Just as you have no guarantees about your correspondents' context, you can't determine much about their status. You can't look at their clothes, note their dialect and rate of speech, listen to the timbre of their voice, or count the wrinkles around their eyes. Your guesses about your correspondents' age, race, gender, marital status, affluence, intelligence, and education will be much less accurate than they usually would be in a face-to-face or even telephone conversation.
Your correspondents can't tell much about you either. They will probably do the same thing you will probably catch yourself doing - make assumptions on the flimsiest of pretexts.
I am emphatically not saying that it is good for people to make assumptions. But because there are so few status cues to draw upon, they will. You need to be aware of that, so that you can work on guiding their assumptions if you need to.
Cues They Will Use
LanguageThe biggest status cue is your competence with the language. If you have lots of misspellings, your subjects do not agree with your verbs, or you use the wrong word, people may assume that you are uneducated. From that, they may infer that you are not very clever. It doesn't matter that the correlation between language ability and intelligence is weak (especially among non-native speakers); lots of people will make that inference anyway.
Furthermore, some people are literally insulted by getting email with errors, especially typographical errors. They feel that it is disrespectful to send email with blatant errors. (Note that you can use this to your advantage. If you want to flaunt your superior status, you can insert some typos deliberately.)
I realize that in a perfect world, we would all have the luxury of faultless writing. However, we do not live in a perfect world. Good grammar is very hard for some people, just as painting portraits, solving partial differential equations, shoeing horses, and sinking putts can be very hard for others. This has always been true, but before the advent of electronic technology, people who were not very skilled at writing could do most of their communication verbally. This coping strategy is less possible now.
Spending more time crafting prose can improve the quality of the writing, but it is not possible to spend an hour on each email message if you need to send ten of them per day. Fortunately, grammar- and spell-checkers can help enormously. If high status is important to your message, you should definitely use them. However, there are certain classes of errors that grammar- and spell-checkers will not find. If you really want to boost your language-related status, you may have to commit yourself to some significant studying.
Personally, I would like my correspondents to spend their time on providing appropriate context instead of on perfecting their grammar. I would much rather get email that says:
There is 50 people with machien guns on Main Street abt 1 mi aways wallking north and they not friendly so getcher butts outta here protno!!!!!than one about the same situation that says:
You would be advised to leave the building promptly.I can guess at proper grammar; I can't guess at proper context.
Return AddressYour correspondents will extract status cues from your domain. (If you aren't familiar with domain names, you might want to read the appendix on domain names and come back.)
Any stereotype that is held about the organization that gives you your email connection will rub off on you. For example, if your email comes from:
- ibm.com, people may presume that you are adult, computer literate, and somewhat stuffy.
- aol.com, some people will presume that you are connecting from home and that your email is not work-related.
- washington.k12.ia.us, people may think that you are under 18.
- webtv.net, people will probably assume that you are not terribly computer literate.
Your correspondents will also look at your real name (if visible) and log-in ID. Unless your name has cues to the contrary, most people will assume that you match the dominant species of your organization and/or country. People will frequently assume that firstname.lastname@example.org is male but that email@example.com will be female - even though barbara could easily be a man named Peter Barbara. Unless the name is something like Smith, people are likely to assume that the author of any email coming from Taiwan is Asian. Unless the screen name is something like Jamaal, people will usually assume that authors of email coming from the U.S. are of European descent.
Your log-in ID gives even more subtle cues. Having a desirable email name - short and without numbers - can indicate that you were one of the first in your domain to get an email account. Thus, firstname.lastname@example.org has probably been using computers longer than email@example.com.
People may also make assumptions about your maturity and formality level. Your correspondent will probably take Barbara.J.Periwinkle@thromble.com more seriously than firstname.lastname@example.org.
You can steer people's impressions very easily just by telling them who you are. You can do this by adding a signature with status cues:
Barbara J. Periwinkle Vice-President of Legal Affairs Itty Bitty Machines, Inc.Or:
Peter Periwinkle Kennedy Middle School (Age 14) Check out the Latvian Homepage at http://www.latvia.org!Here, young Mr. Periwinkle gives the cue that he might be of Latvian origin.
It can also be effective to lead off a message with status information:
Hi, my name is Peter and I'm a student at Kennedy Middle School in White Plains. I'm doing a project at school on imaginary industrial equipment. Could you please send me the latest thromblemeister catalog?Or:
Hi - I'm the Vice-President of Legal Affairs with Itty Bitty Machines. Could you please send me the latest thromblemeister catalog? I'm considering purchasing stock in your company.Note that here the author not only gives a title and professional affiliation, but also shows off language facility by using big words: "considering purchasing" instead of "thinking of buying". Overuse of big words can sound pretentious, but in short messages can enhance status. Be careful, though, that you use the words properly, and that they aren't so obscure that your correspondent can't understand them.
Email UsageThe final thing that people will look at is your use of email. If you do not give proper context, type only in capital letters, or use extremely long lines, people may assume that you are highly inexperienced with the medium. They may also assume that you are too stupid or stubborn to learn, since those are errors that are usually pointed out very rapidly (and not always gently) by experienced users.
In addition to the composition of the email message, people will look at how appropriate the message was. Was it sent to the right person? Was it a reasonable question?
Do You Need To Worry About This?How do you decide how much time you should spend on managing your status cues? That depends upon several things:
- Do you know these people already? If you have had lots of contact
with your correspondents already, their assumptions about your
age, gender, status, and intellect will be pretty solid.
Only the most serious abuse of grammar rules and email
etiquette probably is likely to significantly affect your status with them.
- Are these people likely to care? High-school
English teachers are likely to care more about your grammar than pet food
store owners. People who send lots of email will probably be more
tolerant than people who have the luxury of spending an hour on
every email message.
The Diversity Training Manager is probably less likely to form
impressions based on your race than the regional Dragon of the Ku Klux Klan.
- What outcome depends on the message? If you are sending email to your
boss, you probably should be careful about your grammar.
If you are corresponding
with salespeople who want your business, well, they are being paid not to
care about your grammar. If you need a favor, people may be more willing
to help you if you are able to project enough status to make them think
that you might be useful to them in the future.
- What does their email look like? If they send you email with
incorrect punctuation, poor spelling, and mangled subordinate clauses, they
probably won't care too much if you do the same.
- Do incorrect assumptions bother you? If you are a man named Patrick who doesn't mind being mistaken for a woman, then go ahead and use "Pat" instead of "Patrick". If you don't care if people think you are a teenager, go ahead and use the handle "RadSkater".
SummaryAgain, I do not endorse stereotyping, but generalizing is part of human nature. You need to be aware of what signals you may be giving your correspondents and how to counteract them if you feel they may be incorrect.
- Language status can be improved by using grammar- and spell-checkers.
- Signatures or self-introductions can reduce misconceptions.
- Hopefully, reading this guide will make you more informed when composing future email messages.
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Created 22 Oct 1998
Fixed typo 24 Feb 2000
Beautified page 23 May 2001
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